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ArticlesThe Holiday Season: How to Survive
Well and Heal Better
In this holiday season, though
inundated by the tragic and dramatic public loss of so many
thousands by so many thousands, don’t overlook your personal
losses that predated September 11 th . These tragic events may, in
fact, distract you from focusing on the emotional work you need
to do for your life by heightening or blending your emotions
behind them. Your individual history of loss and grief is yours
alone. It is important for your life to do the healing you have
to do and to develop the coping skills you need to get through
the holiday season well.more...
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Title: An American Tragedy -
Profound Loss: The Sleeping Giant Must Wake Up
Loss by
the numbers blocks us from our feelings. It is almost too big
for us to react to. It becomes an abstraction. How did we
react to the six million killed by the Nazis. So much denial.
To connect, we have to bring that loss down to the level of
our individual experiences; we have to be willing to identify,
be willing to empathize with the terror of an individual
sitting in a hijacked plane - to allow ourselves to see
ourselves there, to be a person in the World Trade Center as a
plane explodes, to be an individual who suddenly moves beyond
denial to the unspeakable horror that they are in an exploding
and burning building, to feel the panic of a father whose son
works in the Pentagon and he doesn't know if he's okay.more...
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Title: You
Can Survive Loss Better Than You Hoped
So, who are you
after your loss? How do you restructure your life? Asking,
"Why did this happen to me? What did I do wrong?" does not
help you cope. Loss is part of life. As much as you'd like to
believe otherwise, you do not have control over all the events
that affect you. But your control can lie in the choices you
make now as to how you face and cope with the loss. These
choices are critical in determining how you get through your
grief and how this loss is going to affect the rest of your
life. more...
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Title:
Strategies for Coping with Grief
This is a compilation
of techniques and strategies I have been teaching my patients
to use both in and out of therapy sessions to help them
connect with feelings that are not easily available. While
many of these techniques are not easy to learn - they take
practice and time-you will find them worth your
while.
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November 1, 2001
Rambling
ThoughtsMore informal than the original
articles, you will find here Dr. Celia's thoughts on a wide
range of subjects. Your comments are invited.
Suggested by Dr.
CAs I come across interesting and useful
articles and books, I will post them here.
A child's
loss of a parent can come about other than through death and a
back- burner feeling of sadness and grief will be carried into
adult life. One loss comes about as a consequence of the
psychological impact of living through a childhood in which
the parent, though present, was unable to sufficiently provide
the necessary emotions of love and security and, instead,
provided distance or abuse (in some form), as the only means
of connection. Some people blindly repeat this pattern with
their children, as the only way they know to continue the
parent-child connection they grew up with. Other people strive
to break this form of connection and blind repetition of their
histories. Instead, they strive to create a new pattern that
is actively different from what they grew up with that is,
hopefully, based on a clearer awareness of what their
emotional needs were as a child. Though difficult (and
sometimes done by doing the exact opposite) it is definitely
possible. The following article is about how a father's
relationship with his son was shaped by his having learned
from his negative relationship with his father what he didn't
want to do! While this is about a father-son relationship, it
applies just as well to a mother-daughter relationship.
Washington
Post June 16, 2001
DownloadsLoss
Evaluation Form
The Loss Evaluation Form has been
devised by Dr. Celia after many years of working with people
coping with loss. It will facilitate your getting a
comprehensive overview of your loss history. It will help you
focus on how well you have healed from each of your losses and
give you some ideas about how what you have learned about
coping with feelings has aided or hindered your healing
process.
Please Note: Only if you
have an appointment with Dr. Celia should you submit this
form. Complete the form and either resubmit by email, fax or
bring it in when you come in for your scheduled time.
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